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The first time

 

hadley first wheelchair 1997There are certain moments in a mother’s life that you will always remember, their first word, their first step, the first time they actually made it to the potty, their first date, their first kiss, their first “A”, the first team they “made” their first best friend, their first college acceptance letter… and in my case

The first wheel chair…

Hadley had been 5 years old and I had been carting her around in a stroller since birth, she was small, and it was easy to flip it open and put her in it, it was safe, she was happy… and I didn’t have to “think” about the inevitable…

And then the day came…

I knew it was coming… I couldn’t keep her in a stroller forever…

Although she was a small little girl I knew it was “time”…

No matter how easy a stroller was for me to throw in the back of my Volvo…

It was time…

And so we had her measured…

Even had her name monogrammed on it in purple… with purple sides… for our little girl…

Our little girl whose legs would never support her for long…

Our little girl whose legs get tired step after step…

Our little girl who just couldn’t stand on her own…

It was time…

When we put her in the wheelchair for the first time…

She was happy…

She tried to move it with her right hand and went in circles…

She smiled…

Me… not so much…

But I knew…

It was time…

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Comments

  1. Awww, this is such a warming post. And, in a way, another step for her towards independence. Great pot mom :-)

  2. I love that photo! What a lovely, bittersweet memory. Thanks for sharing with us. :)

  3. This was so touching! Thank you for allowing us to see into your world and wonder what it wuold be like to switch from a stroller to a wheelchair. I never have thought how I would feel going through such an experience. Your daughter is beautiful!

  4. *hugs* It's hard when doing what's best for your kids also breaks your heart.

    And how did I not know that you can get a wheelchair engraved? I need to look into this. lol ;)

  5. I was there five years ago and hated the damned wheelchair; refused to use it for over a year. It wasn't that it wasn't useful, it was what it stood for that I couldn't face. For the most part I'm over it, but now we take delivery of our first power wheelchair in two weeks. Another major first but this time I'm resolved to embrace it. Hugs to you while you adjust to this 'first'!
    Heidi

  6. This was so touching, Shelley! Thank you for sharing! (Stumbled)

  7. What a sweet, touching post! Thank you so much for sharing this! And that picture is adorable!

  8. I do see the wheelchair as an aide to independence, it was for myself. I can fly around now….freedom to a degree??
    kim
    ps. I know it tough for Moms though….

  9. That was powerful and emotional. Thank you for sharing a unique perspective.

  10. What a hard first. What a good mom to give it to her in style.

  11. What a wonderfully charged post. I hope she enjoys her new ride!

  12. Oh, as a mother this touched me.
    As a teenager, the boy of my dreams was in a wheelchair. To this day I love him. I love those moments together. We are still amazing friends and I don't see the wheelchair..I see the man.
    This will be how others see your daughter, trust me—at least the ones that matter.
    Your post is beautiful and I'm sure it is a small reflection of the relationship you are building with your precious daughter!

  13. Wow – beautiful post.
    Christy @ motherhood-unscripted.com

  14. We have a whole other different set of "firsts" as special needs mothers. We really should get together and write our own "What To Expect…" book. Really poignant post.

  15. What a touching post…and what a beautiful baby!

  16. I've never known anybody with a special needs child, but your beautiful reflections will help me when I do meet a friend that has a special needs child.

  17. Thank you for your touching post and sharing a glimpse of your heart.

  18. This touched a raw spot alright. Still hate dd's wheelchair even after all these years. Glad to see that Hadley looks so happy In hers xx

  19. Thanks for sharing. I had a similar experience when my son started a new school for kids with learning disabilities. I was happy that he was finally in something that would (sort of) address his needs, but sorry that he needed it..

  20. What a wonderful post and so inspirational! Thanks for sharing.

  21. What a great post. How many times as parents we have to let go… and it’s time. Heart-wrenching at times but love does it anyways. Thank YOU. x0x
    Norma Doiron @ The LEARNED Preneur ╰☆╮

  22. I’ve been visiting your blog for a while now and I always find a gem in your new posts. Thanks for sharing.

  23. Shelley, thank you for sharing part of your life with us.

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