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It’s the “most wonderful” time of the year?

Hmm, well let me think about that… I know I have a lot to be thankful for but sometimes this time of the year, the “family time,” gets me down, particularly this year.

Holidays are about “family” and family is “supposed” to be about unconditional love.

I know that in raising Hadley I have learned the true meaning of unconditional love. But somehow my family didn’t get that *memo. I know if you spoke with “them” they would tell you it was my “choice” to stop speaking to them but come on…

… if… you had the power to STOP seeing your child get hurt, wouldn’t you? Wouldn’t you do everything in your power to help that child? Notice I did say in your power… I’m not talking of jumping in and doing it for them… I’m saying be there, support them, and help where you can? Isn’t that what a parent is supposed to do?

Sooo… let’s just say… I did say let’s just say, if you knew someone who could STOP the pain your child was in by ummm let’s say, by making a phone call, wouldn’t you? 10 digits? Wouldn’t you?

I just don’t get it… and I’m tired of trying to figure it out but it is just painful to break away from your family, I mean we don’t pick our family we are born into them, but because of that does it mean they can treat us anyway that fits “them” or only be there if it is fitting to their “business reputation?”

Meh, that’s it… I’m just sayin…

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  1. I know exactly what you mean. It's sad that adults act more like children and can't get along with each other isn't it? You have to do what's best for you. It is frustrating, though.

  2. Quite agree. I'm going through a bit of a dilemma with a member of my family – she's takes advantage of me big time and I'm really fed up with it. I've kind of put my foot down this year and she doesn't like it. But when you get older, I think you yearn more for a quieter life and it that includes putting your foot down once in a while, then that's what you do. Unfortunately, it often means at the sacrifice of family members.

    Take care, CJ xx

  3. This post rings many bells with me. I try to remind myself that it's them that are missing out, but it is hard sometimes.

  4. Yeah, families can be both delightful and difficult. I think one of the "gifts" they give us that they teach us how to set boundaries—something that doesn't come easily to us nurturing types.

  5. *hugs* I'm so very sorry that your family is like that. We cannot pick our families, but we can find the support and love that we crave and need in friends and other relatives. Do what is healthy and loving for you.