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It’s time to “come clean”


Person Washing Hands with Soap in WashbasinI have been writing the story of my family’s journey for the past year and when I began this it was a way of putting some of my ideas together for a book that I plan on writing, to start my creative juices flowing. However, it has been a little tricky because I really didn’t mind using my own name however I didn’t want to expose my children’s real names but it has been a bit difficult and due to actually the “real” story I think it’s time to disclose who my family really is…

Yes, my name is Shelley and I am a mom to two wonderful and special daughters, and wife to an entrepreneur butttt there names really are Sarah (not Rebecca) and Hadley. (not Ainsley) Sarah being my college senior and Hadley being my sweet special needs child. And my husband is Kenny.

So why am I choosing to disclose this now? Well as I said, I would very much like to write a book and would love to have all of you who follow me at some point when that does come to fruition realize Oh that is Shelley and her family who I have read about for a few years now. It also makes a little more sense for those of you who follow my other sites, or my wellness makeover page, or my twitter where I use their real names.

My site is not about giveaways per say or coupons it is about our family’s journey with a special needs child and how through her disability so many children’s lives have been changed around the country and world.(Coming posts!)

So there you have it, my little white lie has come out and from now on you will know who the “real” players in my story are.

Do you disclose your family’s name?

*Right now we have a tie for last week’s giveaway so I have decided to break the tie with anyone who commented on last week’s post return comment today..

About shelley

Shelley Kramm is the founder and editor of I'm Still Standing and The DC Ladies. Learn more about her and her inspirational family here and connect with her on Twitter, Facebook, Linkedin, Google+ and on

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  1. Hi Shelley,
    You're so sweet! Personally, I can't wait to read that book someday.
    Yes, I do use my children's real names but I never give out our last name, at least not in a blog post. I know it wouldn't take much for someone to find it but still, I feel a little better. I had my identity stole this year so I am a bit more careful about things than I used to be.
    So happy we now know the real names of your beautiful children.

  2. Alison says:

    I use all the names of the real factual people. :) But I know plenty of people who will name their kids something else, so you aren't the only one! I can't wait to read your book when you make it!

  3. I don't use my childrens real names, but I make it obvious that it is nicknames I use. I expect people not to use childrens real names and don't judge for it at all. I get used to calling peoples children by their nicknames though and find it hard to make the changeover sometimes when we meet up in real life :) Looking forward to seeing your book someday :) Jen.

  4. Yes I do, I have an autism blog and another about living in Tx…both are about my life.

  5. I use our names. I don't use my city or any info like that though. I would say I don't use my whole name but it's on my Facebook But my FB doesn't say what city I live in either. I didnt change their names cause that's to hard for me to remember every
    Glad you came clean and looking forward to the book =)

  6. I don't use my real name just because my mom has has her identity stolen twice. I'm careful about that. I have thought about it though.

  7. Good for you! And good luck with your book venture.

  8. Hi Shelley—
    Glad to hear you're writing a book. People can learn a lot from what you've been through and how you've handled things. I do use my own name and the real names for my family. Since I write, and I want to build up an online presence, I decided to use my own name. I figure it's pretty easy to find out my kids names since one daughter is an actress. I struggled with this but I try not to live my life in fear of what-ifs. If someone really wants to find out about you, they will. But I'm careful what I say online. And writing memoir is tricky. When you don't tell enough, people sense the holes. If you tell too much, you punch holes where you hadn't intended. Good luck walking the tightrope.

  9. Very cute blog!

  10. Donna says:

    Hi Shelley, lovely to meet you!
    I think it is a lovely idea – and I want to be on the waiting list once that book comes out!
    I disclose our first names, but quite a lot of people know my last name because of some magazine articles that I have written that also give my blog address. I actually found it to be a bit of a relief to say 'this is who I am' and to not hide it.
    Best of luck with the book!

  11. Stopping in from SITS….

    Yes I use all of our real names. I guess it doesn't bother me for people to know what our real names are.

    Nice to meet you and your family.

  12. I love your story, and the journey you're on. Good luck with the book… I hope to read it someday!


  13. Stopping by from MBC! love your blog!!

  14. Good luck with the book Shelley! I am your newest follower!


  15. Oui, C'est Moi... says:

    hi. following you from mbc.
    Good luck on the book.
    Kristine from

  16. I have a friend with MS and she has two children and I really appreciate the job you moms with special needs do and do it so amazingly well. I would love to read your book when you get it published.

  17. Hi there!
    Thanks for the message on MBC. I use our real names on my blog, with nicknames. I've had nothing creepy happen……yet. (fingers crossed!) I look forward to stopping by your blog again!

  18. I just found you through MBC and I look forward to reading more of your blog. I can only imagine the struggles you've had with a special needs child but I bet every moment is worth it at the same time.

    Yes, I use my families real names. I figure I might as well because I do it on facebook, twitter, Baby Center and random other sites. I had a long talk with my hubby before I started doing it. Plus my boys love seeing their names and pictures online!

  19. So excited for you to be writing a book! That my ambition, too. If you ever have advice for those of us wanting to follow suit, please post!

    As for children's real names, hubby and I have agreed that first names are ok for us, but for now, no last names. But I have friends who do the name thing just about any way you can imagine. It's about what's best for you. Good luck!

  20. I have always used my little guy's name because I blogged through my adoption journey and when we chose the name, etc. However I've not used my real name (until recently I've disclosed my first name on a few Ning groups that lead back to my blog) and never use Hubby's name. I've just always felt safer without giving too much detail…

  21. Congrats on writing a book – I think that's wonderful! I'd love it if my Mom would write a book about her family, so much has happened, the good, the bad, the ugly, but it's life.

    I do mention real life names on my blog. Only once was I berated by someone. The "someone" being my ex. I didn't even mention his name, but he sent me a scathing email, telling me I didn't have ANY authority to write about him, even if I didn't mention his name, because I used real life names for me and anyone could guess it was him. Such a paranoid person. Ugh. Otherwise, nobody cares that I use real names :)

  22. Yes, I use our real names. Good luck with your book venture.

  23. Hi~Following you from MBC :-)

    You can find me here~

  24. Stopping by from SITS. I do use their names on my blog, however usually they are referred to as Our Girl, Our Boy, Little Man, and The Oldest. On my son's blog about his journey with special needs I do not use their names, only initials. Great blog, I'll certainly be back!

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  26. Hi! I'm visiting from MBC. I love your blog!

    Paula@One Mom's Corner of the World