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“Diet” is a four letter word

photo courtesy of Weight Watchers

Over the last few months I have been making “healthy choices” choosing to eat just about everything but in moderation. Obviously not chowing down on chips and cookies but rather eating those things that we ate at the beginning of time to “sustain life.” You know fruits, veggies, and grains, and leaving out processed foods.

I have stopped many times to think about the several hundred times that I went on a “diet.” And pondered as to why they never worked… Why did I never “keep” it “up” so to speak? The answer is simple because I never “learned” to eat properly!

Let’s see if there has been a diet I have been on it… I have:

• Counted points
• Drank only liquid shakes for 3 months now that was real healthy! NOT!
• Ate prepacked foods… which I don’t care what anyone celebrity or not says is “awful” food period!
• Did the “big gulp” diet coke diet-that’s where all you drink is diet coke all day and eat a salad for dinner (how stupid is that?)
• Ate high protein and used lots of cream in my coffee-can you say “cholesterol?”
• Drank the popular store bought shake diet, which should be dubbed the migraine and diarrhea diet…
• And went back to the counting points people a few more times… where they actually teach you that “hunger” is a bad thing!

I never realized how important it was to respect your bodies craving for food and understood the meaning behind being “hungry.” It wasn’t until Rebecca came into my life in March and she kept trying to drill the “Are you hungry?” into my head…

How many of you actually eat when you are hungry? And not with the clock, because it’s breakfast, lunch or dinner time but when you are hungry. This really is hard. I know I have been trying to track it. But I have found those days after I have a tough Zumba class or extra hard work out, I feel a bit of “hunger” in the day. It’s like an “ah ha” moment. And now I really respect those times. First I jump for joy and then I go and eat a snack something with protein and carbs usually an apple and almond butter, or cottage cheese and fruit, even jelly.

I have spent the last few months trying to really do things for myself and trying to “unload” excess baggage so to speak so that I can concentrate on keeping myself well which was always a small problem of mine; I’ve said it before, I’m an emotional eater. So I have been trying to distress other ways then through my mouth… The stress in my life has not gone away, I will always be a special needs mom and with that comes A LOT of stress and worrying. But I have learned to take the “eating” out of worrying, the chips, or whatever is not going to change my daughters’ disability it will only keep me unhealthy and possibly shorten my life, so no more to that!

I know how easy it is to get “sucked” into the billion dollar diet industry! Trust me I have been there so many times over the last 20+ years I shudder to think about how much money I have wasted. But it is a very hard concept to learn “hunger.” Especially if you have “done” all of the diets that I have. But this is my small plea for all of you out there, Stop! Stop looking for the “easy fix” because it isn’t an easy fix it is just temporary. Believe me this I am pretty sure I can say I’m an “expert” on because of my history. It is very rare to meet someone who has done one of these “diets” and kept their weight at a healthy weight without changing their eating habits.

Who is with me? How many “diets” have you been on?

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Shelley Kramm is the founder and editor of I'm Still Standing and The DC Ladies. Learn more about her and her inspirational family here and connect with her on Twitter, Facebook, Linkedin, Google+ and on

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  1. I truly enjoy reading your blog! You have many encouraging things to communicate to us all. I just left an award for you on my blog. You obviously do not have to participate in the award process, I guess you could call it, but I wanted to recognize you anyway!

  2. I am an emotional eater too and I have tried every diet going. I have come to the conclusion that healthy choices and eating small and often is the way for me, but not eating by the clock :) jen.

  3. Thanks for sharing this! I'm trying to lose weight at this very moment. I've tried a lot of things in the past but this time I'm doing it my way and the healthy way. We're having more balanced meals – fruits, veggies, etc., exercising,and not doubting or putting myself down because the scale is winning the battle and not me. Failure is not an option!

  4. I do not eat when I am stressed, it usually makes me aintsy, and I must clean something. I do, however, have a close friend who does the emotional eating thing, and has tried every diet in the book! My fave was one of the prepackaged food ones where they deliver it to your door. One day while visiting at her house, she asked me to follow her to a back room and "smell something'" she opened a huge plasic storage tub stuffed with the food, and taking a big wiff, I almost vomited!! She said, "Yep, and the lab (her dog) won't eat it either! LOL! Love this, and am gonna show it to her!

  5. I am a stress and emotional eater too. I just have to be careful what's around when I'm like that, or where I am…I've tried the Pointy diet and have had success on it – but I fall off the wagon a year or more later (like now) and it starts creeping back on. I'm addicted to carbs, I admit it….and Ice cream. I need to learn self control!

    I admire you, you are an inspiration. Wish I could be as strong as you!

  6. I've been keeping up with my exercise recently, but summer-especially the beach-really eats into my diet routine…SITS sent me by, and I'm glad they did!

    The Sun Will Come Out Tomorrow

  7. Great post (and blog) Shelly!
    Following from MCB

  8. I eat when I'm stressed and I eat when I am bored. It's easy for me to fall into that same trap. Next time when I reach out that pack of pretzels after lunch I'll ask myself if I'm really hungry.

  9. I have just started reading Women, Food, and God in order to help get my mind used to the eat-when-you-are-hungry thing. I started Wii Fit yesterday and really like it. I have decided that I am not going to do an actual DIET, but try to eat in moderation and have some fun with activities. It's got to be better than what I'm doing now! And, hopefully, over time, I will see some results.

  10. Hey girl!
    I feel ya on this one. Erma Bombeck said it best. “In two decades I've lost a total of 789 pounds. By all accounts I should be hanging from a charm bracelet.”

    I was always pretty fit till I had my kids. I gained a whopping 55 lbs and that was 6 years ago! I've done them all too, lost and gained again. Last week I finally came up with a full proof plan that I think will work for me.

    Not one diet…but two! lol. Yep. I have combined South Beach phase 2 foods with the Weight Watchers points system. It's WORKING!! I lost 6 lbs this week! I feel good. I'm not starving at all and if I need to I eat something not on the SB list.

    Good luck to you!!


  11. I start a "new life" every 6 weeks. I did do Weight Watchers and I lost a bunch of weight on it. I thought it was the easiest to assist with a life change. But then the holidays came, and I told myself I'd indulge for the entire season and, what? Is Christmas over???

  12. I saw this post title on your SITS comment and it intrigued me because I have written a similar one myself. I have been on many, many diets. Now I am finally on my last "diet" and my first "lifestyle change" and hope to end my yo-yo years once and for all.

  13. I am a stress eater – because if no one is going to comfort me, then I'll comfort myself with food. How stupid! Right? But, it's not as easy to replace that comfort. Any suggestions?

  14. I have an award for you on my blog.

  15. Hi Shelley – I have enjoyed reading your blog and can relate to many of your stories. I have also placed an award for you on my website and see that you have just received several others. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and struggles!

  16. I've just been blogging around and each blog I read seems just a little different then the one before and they are all so personal and interesting. Thank you for letting me visit.

  17. I know I haven't been by a lot lately, but I hope you know that you still inspire me to be a better mama! I hope you had an amazing bday!