I am constantly inundated with a facebook survey sent from friends about “the top 25 things you may not know about me.” I started to write this at least a dozen times and when I get to the fifth thing I just say “forget it, I’m sure that my things sound so much like everyone else’s.” And frankly who cares what my favorite ice cream is (not that I eat it) or what my favorite movie is or what time I came home on the night of my prom. (Well that would be easy because I did not go-but that’s another story).

The more I pondered on this survey the more I thought about my life and how different it has been from so many of my friends, because I have been raising a special needs child for seventeen years. And then I decided it would be better to write “Ten things being the mother of a special needs child has taught me.”

This has been the greatest lesson in my life, definitely frustrating at times constantly questioning the almighty for delivering Ainsley to us but in the end when all is said and done and I put my head on my pillow at night I thank god for giving her to us because through her disability she has taught us all so much about life.

So here goes: Ten things being the mother of a special needs child has taught me.

Being the mother of a special needs child has taught me that “ignorance is bliss”, saying something to an adult staring at a child in a wheelchair is sometimes really hard to resist…

Being the mother of a special needs child has taught me to be patient with everything, which is just taken for granted a healthy child will bring…

Being the mother of a special needs child has taught me that I do have courage to go on and it’s ok to cry, sometimes you just need to take a breath and give a little sigh… or a loud scream!

Being the mother of a special needs child has taught me to be understanding of those less fortunate then myself, as someday this could be your life too…

Being the mother of a special needs child has taught me to manage my time, since I have spent so many hours juggling doctors and therapists and work you would have thought I would have lost my mind…

Being the mother of a special needs child has taught me that I know what is best for my child, even if I have to fight city hall which at times can get wild…

Being the mother of a special needs child has taught me that there is a time and place for everything, and sometimes a giggle might just be the right thing…

Being the mother of a special needs child has taught me about hope, even with the smallest glimmer of things like toileting when I thought I was coming to the end of my rope…

Being the mother of a special needs child has taught me that I am stronger than I thought I could be. I have become a hematologist, neurologist, nurse, pharmacist, physical therapist, occupational therapist, speech therapist, personal assistant, manager, special educator, professional fundraiser, inspirational speaker, and an advocate all bundled up into the mom you can plainly see….

Being the mother of a special needs child has taught me unconditional love which I know came from my inner belief from the almighty above. I used to question why this did happen to me, and now although at times it is still hard to understand I cannot image what life without my daughter would be…

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