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24 Years of Marriage; the good, the bad, and the ugly…

On June 2, 1985 I was about to become a young 23 year old bride. I was ever so excited to become “Mrs.” but if I knew then what I knew now would I have taken that plunge? Would I have believed it if someone told me that in 24 years we would have…

1. Run ourselves into credit card debit that it would take years to clean up…

2. Moved 4 times in the first 3 years of marriage, once bringing a lovely family of cockroaches over to my in-laws who were ever so “pleased” with me for doing so!

3. Given birth to a premature daughter after having just about everything that can go wrong during a pregnancy including a car accident that would leave me confined to the hospital for my last 2 months of pregnancy to end in 26 and a half hours of labor with Pitocin to be followed up with a c-section birth of a 32 week preemie with 0 Apgar scores who we were told EVERYTHING would be wrong with.(Although, happily that time they were wrong as she is now a beautiful and intelligent almost 21 year old college senior.)

4. Started a business with 2 creeps and then had to pay a lawyer to get out of that situation.

5. Traveled to Antigua, Hawaii, the beach, Palm Beach, Miami, LA, and of course Disney at least 20 something times, … (which was pretty much my idea)

6. Given birth a second time under the same crappy “Toxemia/Pre–eclampsia Diagnosis” and this time having another 32 week preemie that ended up with cerebral palsy and a seizure disorder and all that goes along with that…

7. Created a daughter so beautiful on the outside as well as on the inside that she would be crowned Miss Maryland Teen America and go on to hold the title of Miss Continental Teen America who has became an advocate for the disabled.

8. Created not only 1 but 2 successful businesses that originated from our daughter’s disability and how through her life challenges so many children’s lives have been changed and improved.

9. Ooo so many medical issues, weigh gains, weight losses, medication, and major stress to the point of driving issues, hives and panic attacks.

10. Made it through a huge legal fallout from the sale of a company and everything that went with that…

I can say this through thick and thin we have stuck it out together! I’m still standing. One might ask would I do this all over again. “I do.” That was my answer 24 years ago, “For better or worse, in sickness and in health, till death do us part” and “I do” would be my answer again! Happy anniversary honey, I love you with all of my heart!

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Shelley Kramm is the founder and editor of I'm Still Standing and The DC Ladies. Learn more about her and her inspirational family here and connect with her on Twitter, Facebook, Linkedin, Google+ and on

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  1. Happy Anniversary to you both!!! May you have many more years of happiness together :o)

  2. Happy Anniversary! Thanks for stopping by and visiting from SITS. I really enjoyed reading some of your posts. I’ll definitely visit again.

  3. Happy anniversary! You’ve had a pretty incredible life! Here’s to many more years of happiness!

  4. Happy Anniversary, what an amazing story you have, You might have to consider writing a book ?

  5. Hope it was a wonderful anniversary! Sounds like you've been through quite a bit together!

  6. Happy Anniversary. You both make a beautiful couple!!

  7. Thanks for following along, it's so fun to see so many new faces. I'll be sure to stop by often.


  8. Happy anniversary!!

    By the way, I'm from SITS- I saw your comment there this morning and I have to agree. I've noticed, too, that the FB never gets as many comments as roll call and I rarely get new readers from roll call. I used to spend a lot of time commenting on people near me in roll call, but rarely did they ever comment back. So now I just check-in and comment on the FB. Oh well…

  9. Swoozie says:

    Hi! I just found your blog on the MBC/Follower's Club and I'm following you!

    Happy anniversary!

  10. Happy Anniversary and for reminding us it's not all happiness and roses but the journey that get you there!
    Thanks for coming by on my SITS day!

  11. I've only recently begun reading you blog but have enjoyed it very much. I've left you a little surprise on my blog so when you get a chance please stop by and pick it up.

  12. Happy Anniversary! Wow, funny how life turns out…and you went to disney like a million times???? Im so jealous :)


  13. I hope you had a very happy anniversary! This is a beautiful post.

    Waiting for a bus to pick me up :),

  14. Congratulations to you…! New brides today don't seem to realize that a "wedding is a day but a marriage is a lifetime." We just celebrated 40 (!) in January.. Congrats on your whole house renov., too. Can't wait to read all about it…we're scraping that glue.

  15. Oh my gosh! I'm so happy I found your blog–I love it. I'm here in dc metro also and look forward to sitting down and reading some of your older posts here–

  16. Congratulations! You all have been through some hard times and made it.

  17. Congratulations on your successful marriage!

    I have 2 year old twins that were born at 27 wks. due to pre-e. They are doing quite well and we are just waiting for a neurosurgeon to discharge us when Eli is 3.

    I am always pleased to hear of preemies who are first: alive and secondly: doing well. We both know that there are many who don't leave the NICU. It is truly refreshing to see your outlook on your sweet girls and their different yet both, positive preemie outcomes.

  18. Oops, meant to say that I found you through SITS!

  19. Happy Anniversary! Stopping by on a Sunday to spread the SITS Comment Love…please come on over and check out my Silly Sunday Sweepstakes!

  20. Visiting again from the MBC, to grab your button!!

    Relationships are the hardest thing we will all do in this life time. Congrats to you!!


  21. HI! I'm new and visiting from SITS. You have a wonderful blog. I just love what you posted here. It's so raw and truthful. I am now following and will continue to keep posted!
    Happy Anniversary!
    Check out my blog if you'd like to! :)

  22. I am visiting from MBC. I am new there and you friended me. Thanks. I really enjoyed reading this. My husband and I are about to celebrate 4 years, but this was so inspirational to read. What a blessing, thank you for sharing!

  23. I am visiting from MBC. Thanks for friending me. i am so glad you did. My husband and I are about to celebrate 4 years together, and this was so inspirational to read. What a blessing!

  24. You have been selected by THE MOM'S JOURNEY to recieve the LOVELY BLOG AWARD.

    Come by my blog to recieve your award …& don't forget to share it with your favorite bloggers!

    Safe hugz,
    A Mom's Journey

  25. Aww happy anniversary! I will be celebrating my first one this year and hope to have as many as you in the future!

  26. First, Happy Anniversary. Second, I like your blog. Third, you do not look as old as you are! And…….your girls are beautiful. We raise a child with special medical needs…..she has cystic fibrosis. Isn't it nice to share your life experiences? I enjoy it in my blog too.

  27. WHOA happy anniversary… sorry we missed it!

  28. Shelly — I have tears in my eyes after reading this posting. What a wonderful tribute to your marriage.

    thank you so much for coming by my blog and introducing yourself. I will definitely be back here, and I look forward to getting to know you better through your posts. I can tell already that you are an exceptionally special person.

    happy weekend!!