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Archives for October 2009

Not so many Tricks but lots of Treats; it’s Howl’oween!

Can you tell me what child doesn’t like Halloween? A night of costumes, pranks, and candy? As a child I always thought Halloween was fun because it usually was a “school night” where we dressed up, almost always in thoughtful handmade costumes, my family didn’t believe in this buying costumes stuff! There was something thrilling that I can remember of a cool brisk night and just having fun being outside with my friends gathering candy, which at my house lasted on top of our refrigerator in bags with each of my siblings names on it and I kid you not this lasted us until new years as my parents didn’t buy candy, so this was a huge treat for us; and you can be sure we made the most of gathering our treats.

I can’t say I did the Halloween “thing” as a teen or even in college, although Rebeka and her friends make it the most festive night of the year and plan their costumes for weeks in advance and strategically pick which of the many parties at her campus they are going to grace their “costumes.” Halloween usually lasts at least 3 nights in college, I’m warning you parents who don’t know. Therefore Rebeka “needs” 3 costumes a year, it’s a good thing her sorority sisters all share in on this crazy ritual and therefore they have just about any costume you can image! You can to be Little Miss Muffit complete with the spider, a jockey, Snow White? The girls are usually cutesy but some of the guys wow, I have seen pictures of the Geico Gecko, the lucky charms guy, a bag of sugar baby candy, Fred Flintstone, some pretty creative stuff…

Now a day’s families are including their pets in the fun! And being the owner of a pet pharmacy we thought it would be fun to hold a “Howl’oween” costume contest so we can see what our friends from near and far have in store for their furry friends. If you want to jump in on the fun I’d love to have you email me a picture of your little or big cutie in their “best” costume. The winning prize is $150.00. It’s easy all you need to do is email me a picture, and please send it as an attachment. We will put it up on our facebook fan page and voting will be on our blog. You can check it out I would love to see some of my friends enter!

So that’s it really just treats, no tricks here, well not at least this year! LOL

Bullying has gone “out of this world!”

Many of you know who follow me know that I have two beautiful daughters one who has special needs and one who has taken her beauty and used it to help those less fortunate than herself, by using this as a platform with various titles she has held. But beauty has come at a cost to her.

When she was a senior in high school a boy who she was very good friends with for many years, who she defended when other kids “bullied “him on the bus and elsewhere, got mad at her and decided to make a hurtful fake facebook page which he called “antiprincess” and had her picture with an ex thru it as it’s icon. This boy originally created a fake facebook with a different name and no photo and friended his circle of friends included my daughter who thought this was just “a student from school” and then when he had a lot of friends he switched the name and the photo. It was with a blood curdling scream one afternoon that Rebeka saw this was done.

I thank god, she came to us first. We had a pretty good idea of who was behind this because the boy had just gotten in a huge fight with Rebeka right before this, and figured this was his “retaliation.” Geoffrey called the boy’s parents but unfortunately his parents defended him and basically told us it was untrue, but they did say “I guess you are calling because you heard boos when they crowned Rebeka as Homecoming Queen.” Um, no, first not true we were there, there was no booing; and what are we 3 years old? We were talking about something more serious!

In the mean time, other students came forward after realizing what he did by switching the name and photo and told us. When we were informed by other students who indeed the creator was and knew his parents wouldn’t take responsibility we went to talk to the principal who did little more than talk to him with a “slap on the wrist” and say “bad boy.” They told us since facebook is an “out of school activity” they could not do too much to get involved. But I will say that “miraculously” after that the page “disappeared.” Although the pain and embarrassment of this was awful for my daughter.

We also attempted to contact facebook. This was 4 years ago when cyberbullying was a “new” thing and facebook did not have anything in place for reports like this.

Mean girls, bullying has always been around but with the cyber world this has gone on into a new dimension that no one could even have believed possible. It is now possible to hurt a child so bad that people all over the internet around the world will know, and children are dying over this!

On Tuesday October 12th I had the privilege of being invited to the Wired Safety Stopcyberbullying Coalition Roundtable at the US Senate by Mary from WiredMoms. When Mary contacted me about this coalition I was all ears since it was something that touched my family’s life.

I went and listened to two families stories that were not as lucky as mine. Debbie Johnston shared the story of her son Jeffery who fell prey to two years of cyberbulling and torment and at the age of 15 he took his own life. His mother through her hard work had the state of Florida adopt “The Jeffrey Johnston Stand Up for All Students Act,” which requires schools in the state to adopt policies to discourage bullying in person and online.

And Cynthia Logan spoke about her ongoing fight to teach schools how to handle sexting-related harassment among students. Her 18-year old adorable daughter Jessie tried desperately to teach others the risks of sexting after her private nude image she sent to her than 19-year old boyfriend was broadcast to more than 1000 people. After no one would help her, she too took her own life.

I sat and of course tried very hard to keep all my tears in check but just kept thinking thank God Rebeka is still here with us today! Thank God, this didn’t take her life too! So now I’m on a mission to help WiredMoms and WiredSafety spread awareness to as many parents as I can, because every child deserves to be safe!

I know there are many questions out there and many of you are probably thinking first what the heck is “sexting?” The definition of sexting is when a sexual picture is transported thru media. I know a lot of you are shaking your heads but this is a big problem with teens and tweens today, a lot brought on by advertising, media, TV, but the fact of the matter is we need to talk to our kids and let them know this is NOT to ever be done! NEVER!! First of all it is now a federal offense, and if convicted which many children now in fact are it is a federal offense, and you will be listed on the “Sex Offenders List.” Yes, that is the same list as pedophiles who we are trying to keep away from our kids! And if your child has forwarded a photo they received on to others your child can now be convicted as an accomplice of “child pornography” and there you go, if convicted, which again they are doing now, your child will also end up on the same Sex Offenders List. So number one talk to your kids!

I was astounded to learn that kids as young as 2nd grade have cell phones. Come on what is that about? Who at 7 needs a cell phone? But even scarier is that children this young today are ALL on the internet. 97% of teens today are on facebook, and a poll of the same age teens 85% of them say they have been cyberbullied to some extent. 1 in 10 kids will be like Rebeka and talk to their parents that means 9 in 10 don’t! And there are an astounding 160,000 kids a day who don’t go to school because of their cyberbulling experience.

I learned that 85% of kids share their passwords with their friends. Well that’s all it takes for someone to start cyberbulling. Send out messages to all of your friends from ”you” but it’s not really you… this is what happened to Jeff Johnson. It’s called “locking the door folks!” You lock the door to your house to keep it safe don’t you? Passwords are your lock to your computers!

The roundtable was unbelievable with representatives from just about everyone from MTV to Google to Disney. Thirty different companies came together and spoke about the problem of keeping our kids safe and how as an industry they can implement change and rules but the fact of the matter is it needs to also be monitored at home. Know who your kids are “chatting” with. Talk to them about bullying what they should do if they don’t feel safe… “Stop, block, and tell” is what Parry Aftab says. Parry is the heart behind this mission and Executive Director of WiredSafety. If your child feels threatened they should stop chatting, block the person and tell their parent.

The Department of Education was also present to figure out how to add this to curriculum which I am happy to say some states are already doing. New York City’s Mayor’s office just created a wonderful 3 part Video series made by teens which will be shown to all middle school children in New York City schools premiering soon.

There are so many things that can happen in our children’s lives, I beg you please take 5 minutes today to sit down with your tweens and teens and talk to them about this important cause, it might just save their life!

Catching Up!

I have been mad crazy these last few days between preparing for a high school reunion brunch that I hosted at my home last weekend, cooking, and cleaning up for that, and cooking again for the return of Rebeka for her “fall break.” I love that “fall break” we didn’t have anything like that when I went to college, but you know I’m always happy to see her sunny face when she returns… And I am taking the “dive” into the online world of business and opening an Etsy shop, which I will share more with you as it comes closer… so you can see I’ve been a “little busy.”

In my daily travels of bloggyland I came across Yanna who lives across the big gulp in Greece. She shared a link with us about Etsy and being that I’m about to launch my shop I found this interesting and thought you might too. Yanna makes lovely Decoupage art which can be seen at her shop As everyone knows I’m a little bit of a gardener and I just love this piece she created.

And then Jamie wrote a great post to help with organizing your day as a crafter which I found interesting since I am the “queen of organization” reading her tips was a great way to start my shop. Her shop is where you can find adorable and bright fabric gifts for you or your friends, I personally love this little “camera case” which is to hold business cards, and it just might be good for my new cards!

My friend Marilyn recently launched her newly designed website for her beautifully handmade bags, you should stop by to see the cute design of her site and her bags! And of course today she had to “remind us all that there are only 80 more days till Christmas!” omg, there goes the year! Lol And she shared her Christmas list with us, hmmm that has got me thinking about mine… this adorable and colorful pin cushion would work out great for my new business ventures! I think I’ll let the husband know…

Hopefully my new shop will be “discovered” by someone on TV maybe a party planner, or Bridezilla, well not sure I’d like to deal with anyone by that name, or HGTV, Martha, or of course Oprah… but my friend Michelle was fortunate enough to have had her beautiful handmade earrings seen in Boston’s Fashion week during Keith Lissner’s runway show. How exciting for her! But they are beautiful!

And now a small and simple thank you to my friend Sylvia who I met through creative bloggers who sent me the most precious necklace. It is a Dove of peace and I will think of her every time I wear it! Thanks again Sylvia it is a cherished gift!

I really love meeting new people and reading their stories, and seeing what they craft, or give-away, or clip, this is such a wonderful community and brings a smile to my face at least once a day so to all of you near and far, thank you for your friendship!